10 Lessons My Bad Relationships Have Taught Me

It’s nice to fall in love. It feels good to be in love and to be loved.

When you wake up in the morning, a sweet good morning message welcomes you. Before you sleep at night, a lovely goodnight from him seals your day. It’s nice to know someone loves and cares you.

But, not everything that is good and nice lasts forever. Some only stay for a moment.  Some will break you. Some will teach you.

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Here are the 10 Lessons I Learned from my Bad Relationships: 

 1. BE SURE TO KNOW THE PERSON WELL.

Do not be carried away by his sweet words or by the way he treats you. Definitely, he is not going to show you his real color while trying to please you.  Take your time to know each other inside and outside. No need to rush on a premature love.

2. DO NOT TRUST YOUR HEART.

Your brain was placed above your heart so be reminded always to let your brain rule over your heart. Your heart may deceive you. It may betray you. It may lead you to heartbreak. Thus in every decision your heart makes, let your brain confirm it before you do anything.

3. REBOUND IS NOT AN OPTION.

Do not enter a new relationship if you have not moved on yet from your past. Otherwise, you will end up hurting not only yourself but the other person as well. Do not deepen the wounds you already have, rather let it be healed first.

4. WHITE LIES ARE STILL LIES.

Sometimes we think we are doing what is best for our loved ones when we hide to them the painful truth. We feel like we show more love and care by letting them know what is only pleasing and good. However, eventually, they will know the truth. And, that is more painful. That’s betrayal.

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5. SAY WHAT YOU MUST SAY.

This must be my biggest mistake because I always keep to myself what’s going through my mind. I was not expressive of myself, thus I ended up often with too many what ifs. I realized, how will I know the answer if I will not ask? On the other hand, by telling your thoughts to your man you give him the chance to correct your misunderstandings.

6. FORGIVE IF YOU MUST AND NO MORE DRAMA.

There is no limit as to how many times you can only forgive a person, especially your loved one. It is countless. Unlimited. And, if it is forgivable, then forgive soonest. Do not wait for tomorrow or next time. Don’t wait for him to beg you sorry. Give your forgiveness then and then because the longer you keep your anger, the more chances that your heart and mind can be misled.

7. SORRY WON’T HARM YOU

Normally, we only hear people say sorry when they have wronged someone. Yet, sorry is a language of love. It is humbling. Even if you think it was not your fault, saying sorry can be the best solution to make some situation better and easier. Besides, saying it won’t harm you, so why not?

8. SEX MATTERS BUT IT SHOULD NOT BE A REQUIREMENT.

Sex is good, fun and addictive. It gives you a deeper connection to each other and makes you feel that you are more loved. However, it only feels good when the relationship is still up there, but when things go wrong and the relationship ends, you will start to regret everything you have given. Sometimes the relationship only exists because of sex, though love is no longer present.

Let me be very specific: Save your virginity. Do not engage in pre-marital sex. If you want your man to respect you, you have to respect yourself too. Know how to control yourself. I don’t want to sound like an old folk, but spare yourself from emotional trauma. Save it rather after marriage.

9. YOUR FRIEND CAN BETRAY YOU

Do not be too confident of the people around you, even to your friends. Intentional or unintentional, sometimes the people you trust most are the ones who are going to betray you. Learn to protect your relationship. Girl, be sure your boyfriend is not too close to your girlfriends. Not only men know how to snatch, women too!

10. LEARN TO LET GO

Love is also about fighting for that one person. But, when it is no longer worth it, let go. When that person no longer respects and love you, set free. It will hurt you, definitely. I mean, it will hurt you badly. But, if that’s what it takes to make yourself whole again, then so be it. Do not let yourself get lost and be broken in the process of loving someone too much.

It’s nice to fall in love. It feels good to be in love and to be loved. But, not everything that is good and nice lasts forever. Sometimes, there are only there to teach you lessons the hard way.

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10 thoughts on “10 Lessons My Bad Relationships Have Taught Me

  1. I agree with all of these… except #8. While I agree that respect is an important part of relationships, I don’t think withholding sex is necessary (so long as both parties are ready and consenting). I don’t think someone who has premarital sex is not worthy of respect.

    But that’s just my opinion. Great post 👍🏽

  2. This is such an apt list. I hope you are heaps better now and all ready to embrace a new relationship with what you have learned.
    More power to you. 😊

  3. Great post. My relationship prior to my husband was not good and this would have been a huge help when I was recovering from that. Lol. I do remind myself not to regret it because I learned from it.

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